Sun, Sep-30-12, 21:34
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Senior Member
Posts: 944
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Plan: atkins '72 -now ketogenic
Stats: 260/181.4/140
BF:
Progress: 65%
Location: Baltimore, MD, USA
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You are trying to establish how you "should" feel about yourself, yes?
"One should base one's self-esteem on one's own self-image." That is a pat answer, and it doesn't sound, to me, to be the one you need, or even a correct one. I say not correct because it smacks of wanting to deal with reality as it "ought" to be, instead of as it actually is.
How it actually is is that we want to look good BOTH because WE think we look good, and ALSO because we look good to others.
You are not, at this time, going to get what you want. Either they GENUINELY don't think you look good, or they DO think you look good, but for whatever reason personal to THEM, they are still going to make disparaging comments.
At this point, you are going to have to reconcile both desires, the one to personally feel that you look good, and the one to get positive feedback about how you look from others. Neither is easy.
If after an honest assessment of how you look you decide for yourself that you look good, you are just going to have to decide for yourself what you want to do about the negative feedback you're getting.
But honestly I think you just need to stand up to these INCREDIBLY RUDE people. I don't care if you weigh 1200 lbs and look like a sperm whale wearing a rubber band and a napkin, these people are IGNORANT AND RUDE, and you need to stand up for yourself!;
"Why do you think it's okay to express that YOU think there's something wrong with MY weight?"
Or
"Don't you think what you just said was rude?"
Or
"How do you think what you just said makes me feel?"
But personally, these people are not giving a crap how you feel, so I would go with either;
"Screw you."
Or
"Suck it."
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