Hey Laurie

Just thought I'd drop by to, <b>first</b>, encourage you! Like you said, you are doing this for yourself
and <b>second</b>, well, I think there are so many different takes on this..
It is true that sometimes, people simply do not care... well, don't be afraid to hint that you suddenly feel good
Some may simply not be comfortable discussing weight issues with you. After all, think about this: are THESE people you discussed such things with before? well, there you go.
It is really awkward to go to someone, pay what you would qualify as a compliment, but in fact, hurt this person.
Safe option: better keep the mouth shut and avoid problem.

Now, there ARE a few who definitely are simply jealous because...you look good! and you know it by then. This is not vanity: it is there so it is pride for getting results on something you did yourself.
it is not simply better or different looks.. you just look good.

Tell me I am right.... I know I am. If your clothes are slightly loser, why not treat yourself to a few new items in your wardrobe? That will also make a change... to you, your body and.. the world.

congratulations on your achievement and keep up the good spirit.

ciao

I know where you are coming from...I was so excited when the Ford Club had there Valentine's Dinner...I started LCing Nov 2.
I had just went on a trip at the end of Oct we these same people
at 202 pounds...I saw them again in Dec...even though I know I had a good weight loss...I thought OK well maybe not enough for anyone to notice...but then Valentines came around I went from
a size 22 pants (Not sure what size dress I wore then...Mumu?)
to a size 12 dress...you can't tell me there was not a difference.
But no one even said "Well you look good tonight" Go Figure...

I have to agree with everyone...I think they just don't want to bring up.

I Think Maylisa Hit The Nail On The Head When She Said---

Some people don't know whether or not you want them to notice. They may be afraid of hurting your feelings by calling attention to your weight. Sometimes the weight comes off so gradually that people really don't notice. Usually if people haven't seen me for awhile, they will be able to tell I've lost weight.


At least I keep telling myself that is how they feel anyway!


Keep Up The Great Work!!...
Julie

as others have stated.

I noticed the last time I lost weight that no one said a word when I got off the first 20 pounds.

But when I lost the next 20, everyone noticed. But some people even then (the jealous ones, I think) didn't even mention a word. And I looked good too!

After years of yo yo dieting, I have learned a couple things:
(1) How to dress so the excess doesn't show
(2) How to purchase clothes that will take me through multiple sizes.

Given that, I hide added pounds, but make the lost pounds less noticable as well.

BUT...when I purchase a blouse or top that is less forgiving...BAM...I get the comments.

-- Loretta

I know what you mean, I had to lose 50 before anyone noticed it on me, and that was after I had bought new clothes.
Try that

Wow and thanks everyone!!!!
I went to bed last night wondering what was the problem here.. thinking that maybe my body wasn't really "the kind" that was losing fat, just ... well I don't know ..27 pounds of water or something??? Then, I wole up this am to all your fun and informative comments!! Better than the tooth fairy arriving in the night!!!
I appreciate and love YOUR not noticing stories!! 70 pounds and no comments!!! Well... I think many of your suggestions and suspicions are right on... afraid to comment and be wrong, don't want to draw attention to my weight, and the brain just being on vacation most of the time.. ha!
Reminded me of my 10 year old daughter this morning as well... she was very upset (new for her) because some of her little hairs were fuzzing out around her braids and not 100% smoothly tucked in. It was the type of thing NO ONE in the universe would have noticed but her! I was tempted to laugh and scream, "Those tiny hairs??!! Heck, no one has noticed 27 1 pound boxes of butter disappearring off my body, so I doubt they will notice three microsocpic hairs on you!!!" I used restraint however and simply suggested that if she felt uncomfortable, she could redo the braids, although I saw nothing unusual about them and thought she looked wonderful, etc...
I think the idea of getting some new clothes will help, both me and my new "look". Am also waiting for the cooler weather to pass and also another 5 pounds or so as my old ones are still wearable and comfortable (being looser!). So, thanks for those helpful suggestions too...
and a BIG thanks to the person (sorry I don't know how to get back into the thread and retrieve your name while I'm responding), but you who said you read the stats on the forum and havee noticed!!! tee hee and thanks!!
OK Thanks again... I am now fine with no one noticing because it seems to be qute a common experience and not just me looking no different after all!
Cheers,

Laurie,

A few years back a lady that worked for me lost 40 lbs. and I had not noticed. Somebody mentioned it to me and I couldn't believe it. He immediately took me in to see her and she did look different once it was pointed out to me.

A few thoughts:

1) I would never have said anything. Especially as a manager. I valued what was behind her eyes not on her hips, legs, belly or whereever.

2) Being that she was so incredibly superb at her job with a warm, loving personality and a staggering intellect, I never thought of her as overweight.

I also am extremely unobservant about looks. It takes something way outside the norm to get my attention. I mean way outside. I once dated a lady that was missing two fingers for a month before I noticed. If somebody that I don't know well were to part their hair on the other side of their head, I'd probably introduce myself. It makes it embarrasing when you hug the wrong wife, but that's another story.

However, I am more likely to recognize someone I know by the way they move. My boss has recently lost weight and gained muscle and it shows more in the way he walks and the way he carries himself.

So it could be that the changes you're going through haven't tripped whatever it is they have noticed. It could also be that they see you as a valued friend/colleague/whatever and more than a number on a scale.

And really, that's where you want to be. As your confidence grows, people like me will not know what it is that is different about you and it'll drive them nuts trying to figure it out.

Good job on the loss. Keep it up.

You know, this happened to me also. I've gone from a size 24/26 to a size 12 and only 1 count them 1 person has made any comment on my size difference. It is difficult not to get recognition. I need it... lol. I'm not sure why people take this route, it would be nice if a friend said...boy you are looking great! It's just not the same when you say it to yourself.

Gail

I lost 66 pounds before anyone noticed.

You're doing great! Not only do I agree with everything everyone else has said here already, let me add that at some point it's important for you to acknowledge that you're doing this for YOU. Give yourself a big hug and a big high-five, and a TREAT! New lipstick? New shoes? New haircut? Celebrate your triumph with your very own victory parade! Wooohooooo!

Isa (cheering for you)

Hi all,

Laurie, hate to be a wet blanket, but what may be going on is that many -- even most -- people like what is "predictable." Doesn't matter if it is good or bad, so long as it is predictable.

Change shakes their emotional foundations. When you pull their "fat person" rug out from under them, they feel less secure. They don't want things to change.

Alas, some of these people are the ones who will tell you, "Gosh, that diet you are on it insane ! It can't be good for you health ! "

Well, they really mean you well, and what will become "predictable" for them is a newer, more slender you. It'll just take some time before a healthier, more slender you, stops threatening their "predictable" world.

And, then someone will say -- amazing you and astonishing themselves -- "Gosh, you look great !" Then that will become what if pedictable.

Being me I just let my husband tell everyone that I am eating him out of house and home and he can't figure out why I have lost so much weight. It was so cold from Jan and Feb that I am still wearing a heavy coat and this morning a sweater too. only-14 this morning but it wasn't long ago it dropped to -38 below here.
Jan

Just keep up the good work and never mind the nay-sayers.

Keep your head up and your mind on your journey and keep it moving!

people are very uncomfortable with change.

One of the weirdest things the last time, was that the diet stopped all my aches and pains (haven't gotten to that point yet this time). Everyone was so used to me complaininig how much I hurt all the time, that they just didn't know how to act with me being so happy, pain-free and silent!