Tue, Sep-21-04, 19:00
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Lowcarb since 7/2002
Posts: 5,991
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Plan: Atkins
Stats: 360/232/180
BF:BMI 53.2/34.3/?
Progress: 71%
Location: U.S.: Mid-Atlantic
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I agree with you; I really think that increased self confidence makes all the difference in the world.
I am 46 years old, I weigh 240 pounds, and I have been amazed to discover a few men flirting with me lately. It doesn't happen all that often, but it does happen. I'm also tall (5'9") and I think I carry my weight fairly well (I'm athletic, so I have a lot of muscle), but 240 pounds is still a lot of weight. I know that no one was flirting with me when I weighed 240 pounds on the way up the scale. I really think that having lost a significant amount of weight I must be projecting self confidence and that is attractive to some men. I've also been paying attention to how my clothes look and how my hair looks and trying to put forth the best image I can. When I was gaining weight and weighed this amount I hated my body and I must have projected that, so of course no one found me the least bit attractive.
Of course, it's all relative. When I was 23 years old and tall, blonde, and thin, a lot more men flirted with me and hassled me than do these days. I used to dread walking past construction sites and that is no longer an issue and I doubt it ever will be again, no matter how thin I get (there are some advantages to being 46)! Still it amazes me that anyone at all finds me physically attractive, but at least a few men do (including, fortunately, my husband who has loved me through fat and thin for almost 25 years).
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