Mon, Apr-19-04, 16:09
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Senior Member
Posts: 2,472
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Plan: Atkins
Stats: 229/205/170
BF:I have Body Fat!??
Progress: 41%
Location: Idaho
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Kaeleen, I want to thank you for posting what you did! I haven't had a self-esteem problem with my weight for probably 10-15 years now, but there's been another problem rankling at me lately, and in reading through one of those I think it hit the nail on the head. Unfortunately, this problem has been driving a rift between my husband and me, as in just as no one will love you if you're fat isn't true, no one loving you because you're getting old isn't true, either, and I'm thinking this is exactly how I've been feeling lately, like I am completely unworthy of his love and affection because I'm turning into a middle-aged, saggy woman.
And my apologies, Woo! Not meaning to derail your thread; your topic is excellent. You have taken the first steps in realizing there is a problem and that's the crucial point. I had to do this, too, after gaining weight accompanying pregnancy. My husband had made a snide comment that if I ever got fat he'd leave me. He didn't mean it, but it hurt.
I had been overweight for most of my life, then lost weight in my early 20s. After re-gaining with pregnancy, then trying various diets with nothing working, it took me a long time to be 'ok' with myself again.
I, with others here, will also suggest a counselor. Sometimes we can work through these things on our own, and of course sometimes places like this can be great help, but if that doesn't work out, I think talking to a counselor would be a great idea.
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