If I stick to the diet from my nutritionist will I be able to avoid getting diabetes? - my dad and other family members have type 2.

My low carb diet is not as strict as Atkins, Zone etc as I can have all vegs - except starchy ones, pulses nuts, etc and then on top I have 35g to 'spend' on other carbs.

I would think yes. Especially if you choose the lowest carb choices most often and resist the temptation to "save" that 35 g of carbs to "spend" on something you know will spike your blood sugar.

Risk factors are also being overweight, and carrying a load of fat around your abdomen, right? I've read a 10% weight loss changes the risk but even better be normal weight for your height. Was it Dr A who talked about how carbs load the fat around your abdomen?

Not everyone gets the fat around the abdomen, though. For whatever reason I always put it on my hips and thighs. My weight generally fluctuated between only 150 - 160. I know many larger people who were much healthier than I. And yes, I was insulin resistant, getting hypoglycemic episodes, and with a very dismal family history of early T2. So many crazy hormonal things are associated with insulin resistance that sometimes it's hard to tell just by looking.

Given that I was never very heavy, I don't think losing weight has helped nearly as much as directly controlling sugar and lowering insulin levels! Cutting straight to the chase, right?

But I do agree that the particular pattern of fat deposition on the abdomen is a fairly strong signal of IR, it's just not the only place it turns up for some.