Hi Rosa.

I think it is very important for your hubby to read the book too. I am with DW, when he says this: "Also, I really think your husband should read the book because it helps so much to understand the reasons why this WOE works. I fear that by not educating himself, your husband is setting himself up for failure. And as most of us know, it's that failure that causes us to gain even more weight. By not reading, your DH is approaching this like a "diet". And it aint."

I also believe wholeheartedly, as an addict of both carbohydrates and an addictive drug - nicotine - that YOU have to take responsibility for yourself. If your husband is not willing to read the book, not only is he possibly setting himself up to fail (all addicts like to leave that as an option - until they finally make a firm committment to never touch their substance again), but he may be using his ignorance of DANDR as a way to put the responsibility for HIS life change onto YOU. This is dangerous, because it may adversely affect his health, and yours as well as you may feel guilty and responsible for not being able to control *his* addictions. We all know we are all only one step away from being fat again - and stressors like these are huge triggers for relapse. It's a vicious cycle. And it should be noted that this is not a 'male' thing. I did this, and am obviously not male. Addiction knows no gender bounds.

Be careful, and let him know how important it is to be informed about such a major change. He has to be more involved in it.

Diana