I have an experience with an ex-gf, which to put it more succinctly, provided more motivation rather than support.
During the apogee of my weight gain when I was eating primarly high carb and high fat foods combined with a suddenly more sedentary lifestyle, I was a hefty 185. Now, on paper, that might seem gaunt enough at my height, but I have very slender bones. Suffice it to say, 185 lbs was not an appealing look for me. I considered myself fat, and looked it in every way.
Now, my girlfriend at the time, remembered me during "better times," I guess. One day, she suggests that I either lose the weight and look like I have in the past, or get lost. Well, to be fair, she put it much more delicately than that; but, that was the jist of it.
So, though it wasn't technically support, I used the rejection as a motivation to do what I have already procrastinated far too long on--start running every morning like I have for most of my life, but armed with a new and healthier eating regimen (which obviously turned out to be low carbing).
Afterwards, I decided it was only fair to reciprocate her motivational gesture "tit for tat," and followed suit by saying to my now ex-gf, "ok, why don't you start looking prettier, or I'm gonna find a hotter looking chick!"
All of you are very lucky to have persons around you who are not only supportive, but accept you for who you are, and not merely how you look.
With kindest regards,
Frederick
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