Wed, Jul-23-03, 19:30
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Contributing Member
Posts: 102
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Plan: Zone
Stats: 150/142/136
BF:30%/26%/23%
Progress: 57%
Location: Finger Lakes, NY
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Hi, kboat, welcome to the forum. You're facing a whole bunch of tough challenges all at once! Well, we're on your side (from what I've seen here I think I can safely speak for the attitude of this great group). Even on the bc pills, I think the LC plan will triumph over cravings once you adjust. In the meantime it should interrupt the weight-gain spiral and that'll help keep you from getting depressed at yourself.
I think you've done wonderfully well to hang on to so much of your weight loss! Look at what you have accomplished.
I had to chuckle when I read your plea for tips about having to eat with a new husband because I remember gaining a whole bunch of weight in the first months of my marriage. (Good for you to nip it in the bud.) It's hard to be "playing house"; you get all caught up in the rituals of the home, so many of which involve making and eating food. Well, I'm 23 years into living with someone who, for a long time, could get away with eating more than I. Now things have changed a bit; and, as often happens, he has to be more careful, too. In fact, we're partners in the weight loss effort. Until you move in that direction there are several things I can offer from my perspective:
The health benefits of LCing will be even more important for him as years go by than for you. All the stats make it clear that men's health is very vulnerable to overindulgence. You can't nag him, but you can quietly model what you've learned the hard way. In the long run, it'll be better for both of you. Second, I'd suggest that you at least communicate how hard watching him eat everything you want to eat is. Not that you're expecting him to stop (again, we can't control somebody else), but at least he'll understand how it feels for you and maybe won't mind if you leave the room for a few minutes and do something else, etc. One of my sons would take his popcorn downstairs into the rec room and eat it there when he knew it would trouble me. People who understand can be amazingly kind. Also, some tips that might help with the fact that he can eat vast quantities more than you and leave you sitting there finished while he eats on are: work at eating your portion more slowly and really savoring each bit, putting your meal on a smaller plate so it'll look more ample, and seeing yourself as a slim and delicate creature who just couldn't possibly consume types and amounts of food out of proportion to the svelte you! (I know it sounds goofy, but our heads, not our mouths, are the real danger zones and that is where the victories begin.) Hope even one of these suggestions and/or insights is of some help. Good luck to you!
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