um.....ok......im 17 and my boyfriend iz 18....im stuck in a huge problem ive never had to deal with.....my boyfriend told me he wuz belimic before he met me....and he just recently revield that he still wuz and he hadnt thrown up in about a month and he promised me that he wouldnt ever again and i promised id help him.....he became belimic because he has a problem with keeping the weight off.....so i heard about this low carb diet thing and ive been trying to research it and get him some recepies and stuff....well....theres another problem.....he loves junk food and he hates vegetables....next problem....he eats like a bird and the other day he ate half a pizza hand the next morning he threw it up (involuntarily) all the food made him sick and hiz body iznt used to it.....i just dont know what to do......AND he just quit smoking hoping it would help but he knows he'll probably gain weight from that too.....so....um....I NEED HELP!......please.....i love him so much and i want to help him but i cant do it on my own and i hope theres someone out there that can help me help him.........please.......

Well.. I'm new to this low carb diet, but I know that Carbohydrate Addict's diet allows you to a Reward Meal , in which you can eat as much as you want within one hour... During the day, you have to limit you carbohydrate intake....
Maybe you could suggest that to your boyfriend..
For breakfast, he can have omelets, lunch can be a caesar salad.. and dinner can be all the sweets he's craving for...

Good luck.. He's lucky to have such a caring girlfriend=)

hello lilacid,

It sounds to me that your boyfriend needs more help than just a diet. He may have some more serious medical issues to deal with if he is throwing up involuntarily. I would certainly recommend he see a doctor but if he refuses I would research bulimia on the internet. There are quite a few good sites online. Many times people who are sick promise things they cannot follow through with. I don't know if this is the case with your boyfriend, but I highly suggest the bulimia issue be dealt with before the diet.

good luck

damaraq

i agree--this is a problem beyond your ability to address. Even skilled psychotherapists will years of training and schooling have a hard time helping those with eating disorders who want to be helped. A team of counselors and nutritionists and MDs need to help him.

Let him know he is loved, and encourage him to seek professional help. Avoid planning your dates around food--focus on other fun things to do.

Best of luck to you both.

The way your boyfriend will change his behaviour is by realizing that he has a problem and and finding a way to overcome his eating disorder. Individual counselling as suggested above and Overeaters Anonymous - which is free - would definitely help him, but only if he is willing to be helped.

Don't try to do this on your own or change him. No matter how much you love him, trying to save him from himself won't work. Only he can do that.

Karen

IMHO, This is not your problem, it's your boyfriend's. No LC plan is going to address his issues, no matter how much you care about him or how much research you do.

I think the best you can do is to get out of the middle of his problem. This is a battle you simply cannot win, and one that will sidetrack you from your goals. In professional circles, this is called "enabling". He needs to stand on his own two feet here, and the most loving thing you can do is to help him do that.

You and he both deserve better. I'm sure you are a wonderful, loving caring person and he undoubtedly has wonderful attributes as well, but you are not revealing them to each other right now.

Professional care for him; loving detachment for you. LC is beside the point.

Best of luck w/ this sticky situation.

Take care...