I have written here before and mentioned how much I hate being fat.. but now, honestly I am ok with it. Yeh its nice to lose weight or whatever.. but you have to learn to love yourself, and I think I am beginning to. At one point I would look into the mirror and feet like crap, but now I look into the mirror and I feel beautiful and its mainly due to the change in my thinking. My advice is don't ever let something like being fat get you down, and stop you from doing anything. Have no regrets. Cheers!

Hey there! Please make sure not to beat yourself up about your weight, ok? Stay positive. I think the extremely negative self abuse contributes to the weight gain more than anything....It's hating yourself that puts you in an awful spiral where you don't take care of yourself.

You are beautiful and just think about how you DESERVE to feel good and happy (at 120 or 220 for that matter). It's just that you know that you will feel better with some weight loss. And this is why you are trying to be good to yourself.

One more thing.....120 is really low. I am so shocked when I see women who are obviously not naturally skinny going for 120. I for one know that I simply could never be that small and be healthy. Are you sure that that isn't too stringent a goal? not to get too nosy....

He sounds awful. I would never be with someone who treated me like that. I know it's so easy to say "leave him", but seriously....you need to look at that behavior as what it is: emotional abuse. I also cannot believe that someone who calls you a cow can be much of a prince in other areas. Is this the first time that he has made you feel this way?

Take a long and honest look at his bahavior and at this relationship. Your SO is supposed to be your greatest support, not a humiliating pressence in your life.

I'm sorry he said that to you.