When you meet someone special, you will know. They will love you for who you are inside, regardless of what you look like on the outside. These dating lines and such really seem to be places to hook up for fast non-relationships, the men tend to be looking for sex with no strings attached... sometimes, even can be dangerous. Just a word of advice, take it for what it is worth.
Instead, maybe try to focus on things you enjoy. A hobby, going to the gym, dancing, bowling, church groups, computer groups, even a cooking class or a low carb group in your area.
Wherever you go or whatever you do, try to engage yourself in activities to share with others. I have found that when you start living your life for you, Mr. Right will happen along when you least expect it, and it is such a wonderful surprise!
What better place to meet a companion than while you are doing something you enjoy? This puts them on your terms, as well, and not on their terms like the dating lines and such tend to do. Who wants to dangle there waiting for someone to pick them like a piece of fruit? And you know they will toss you out when they are done, to move on to the next, not caring what state they leave you in.
Instead of standing on the wall waiting for someone to grace you with their presence, on their terms, let someone come to you in your lifestyle. You will definitely be far more happier and relaxed if you start on common grounds with someone. You will be much happier not always feeling like you have to "measure up" to be accepted!
Everyone was right in their replies to you. You have done an awesome job! Keep up the good work, but *always* do it for you, and your health benefits. You know you are feeling better, you are gaining confidence and feeling better about yourself. That is something you should *never* let another person take from you! Take positive steps to eliminate people from your life that demean you or try to humiliate you. There are plenty of others that cen be supoorive and encouraging, just look around you here!
It is a hard lesson, but when you have to compromise your feelings to please someone else, it is a sure sign you will *never* be able to please them. You would never be satisfied yourself, or ever feel fulfilled. Is that the type of person or way of life you would really want? Instead, put all that energy into someone who can accept you, inner beauty, faults, successes, and all. They really *are* out there!
Brush it off, and stay focused and strong. You made it this far, the road of success is still waiting ahead for you.
I may be fat, but I can lose weight. Those types of people, however, will always be ignorant.
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I think you are wrong. I think every guy who wrote you was a weirdo. Especially the ones who made those comments. I mean think about it. What kind of person would go out of their way to make another person feel bad. You know that's one good thing about being over weight. You get to see who people really are on the inside. Just think. If you were thin right now. Those same guys would be dying to meet you and yet they would still be slime balls. It would just take you a longer time to figure that out. There are good men out there that don't place importance on weight. Those men are the ones to find. My husband met me when I weighed what you weigh now and has loved me no matter what my size. He happens to be naturally thin but if he had a weight problem I would love him just the same.
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