Hi Talon! Lots of good advice here. I can understand your slight discomfort. I think you have to make your intent clear: you're not commenting on her, you're just sharing your story because her step mom hasn't had that experience.

I agree that it would be a good idea to "hang out" with her in person - maybe take her bowling or something? It would be nice, if you both have the time, if you could even hang out more often. I think it's good for teens to have some adult companionship outside the family. I wish I would have had some.