I've finally decided to view my relationship with food like I would any other relationship. So I have to ask myself; What am I putting into it and what am I getting out of it. I have to have a relationship with food because its needed for my survival, its not like alcohol or smoking that a person can give up completely. Or someone I can leave or divorce, its got to be in my life. So I have to learn how to have a healthy relationship with food or it will continue to be a dysfunctional relationship that will bring me a lot of pain. I can't blame my weight on food, its how I interact with food. I use it and abuse it and pay a price not only on the scale but in how I feel about me. So my journey is not just weight loss, its learning how to have a healthy relationship with food.

yay, betsy! What a great way to look at it. I love watching members coming to new and useful and healthful understandings of themselves.

Keep up the good work.

Betsy,

I liked your post. It is so true! We have got to eat!

I have always admired the people in life who see food for what it is ....fuel for their body. I have always viewed it as a reward and a comfort, and treated myself accordingly. It is a sick, twisted way to view food, especially when you have over a hundred pounds to lose.

I should be treating my body to exercise and healthy food....not sugar and junk food.

So I am really trying to balnce everything and enjoy healthy food. There is sooo much of it I like. But, I try to keep perspective on it and not use it when I am depressed or stressed, (2 of the times I tend to go crazy on food). I've noticed when I don't bury my sorrows in food, I actually try to face the problem...a very interesting approach.....facing my problems!

You're approach sounds excellent! In fact, you've inspired me some - thank you!!!!

{Betsy: I have to have a relationship with food because its needed for my survival, its not like alcohol or smoking that a person can give up completely.} I have read some incredibly fascinating biographies of people across the centuries, across the globe who did not have even that relationship with food. In fact I have met an incredibly beautiful, vital woman who stopped eating in 1992.

I love my food too much to even want to be like her - albeit the idea of never going food shopping or washing up does appeal!

You are right though - most people here (including me) need to examine their relationship with food. I figure ultimately it boils down to my relationship with me and what triggers dysfunctional behaviour within me, be it eating or otherwise.
Enjoy the journey.
Take care.

Wow...I don't think I'd want to go without food, either! I've always been told that really messes with your metabolism and heck, I need mine going as fast as I can get it to go!!