Wed, Apr-07-04, 11:54
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Posts: 51
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Plan: Atkins, the YMCA & praying like the dickens!
Stats: 240/228.5/125
BF:God Only Knows!
Progress: 10%
Location: Seattle, WA
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No way
Fluffy, I am well-versed in sabatoge, both self and others. Remember, no one can force feed you, no one is holding a gun to your head. Get Dr. Phil's Book, it addresses that very issue. You are going to have to learn to be strong in instances like this, your hubby won't be the only one trying to sabotage your efforts, time to get a thicker skin, so to speak.............
As for your DH's sabotage, he is doing it because he's insecure, afraid if you lose weight you'll leave him for someone thinner. How you deal with this is key, just be polite, but you have to be consistent, my ex would foil ALL attempts at previous attempts to go to the gym. Years later, now living in Washington, I've dumped the last TWO guys I was seeing for that very same reason. My #1 priority is going to the gym after work to lose this weight. One guy wasn't so verbal, just made some snide comments. When I tried talking to him about it, he clammed up tighter than you know what. I promptly dumped him, 3 weeks into the relationship, I dont have much patience for that crap, and since he wasn't supportive and did not have the ability to talk, told him goodbye. The next one was MUCH more direct, stating that I should NOT be going to the gym after work because then we wouldn't be able to spend time together. When I questioned him further about the importance of me going to the gym, he finally said that I didn't NEED to go to the gym! You've got to be kidding!!!!!!!!!!! 100lbs overweight and I don't need to go to the gym???? I saw him for what he was, an insecure control freak.
Remember...........ANYONE who tries to change your way of thinking in any form is trying to control you, no matter how subtle or direct.
I hate to say it, but there are men out there who find heavy women attractive for the very reason that they're so insecure and can't handle a good-looking, in shape, healthy woman.
So though you need to talk to your hubby, remember, you're doing this for YOU, he doesn't have to be on the boat, but he dam well better help you push off the dock!
C
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