Wed, Jan-21-04, 18:12
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Plan: Bernstein Diabetes Soluti
Stats: 260/-/145
BF:
Progress: 63%
Location: Michigan
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I am still in the 140s, it isn't like I am wasting away. Is it just that they are so used to seeing me with the extra 60 lbs.
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I think that's probably at the heart of it all. At your current height and weight, you are not too thin, but they are "used to" you being 60 pounds heavier and even though they may consciously recognize that weighing less is better for you, it still represents a changed you; one that they are not comfortable with even though the only thing that has likely changed about you is your weight and perhaps having a more positive attitude about yourself.
Many people find change threatening and are not aware of it; they are only aware that they feel vaguely uncomfortable and think that if you "stop losing weight" that the uncomfortable feeling will go away.
It could also be that your success with losing weight is a reminder every time that they see you that while you have been successful at losing weight, they are still the way they were; it's a blatant reminder to them that they aren't doing anything about their weight issues and if you go back to being the way you were, they won't have to face that anymore.
Relax and enjoy your success; the comments are more about them then they are about you and they'll get used to the thinner you eventually.
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