Wow, I'm so sorry they did that to you! It clearly sounds like your SNL is jealous, and that was her way of showing it. I would just tell them that you don't want to eat at their house anymore. That might send a clear message about how much you didn't appreciate it. I doubt that little bit of honey hurt you. I ate a whole slice of cheesecake at Christmas and didn't gain a thing.

I was out with my mom today and we stopped at a store that had fresh-baked cookies. Three times my mom kept saying "Bonnie, why don't you have one?" I kept reminding her that I don't eat those anymore. It was like she wanted me to eat it just so she wouldn't feel bad for eating two of them!