I have come to realize that there is a major connection with depression and control. If I feel out of control I react to it with depression. I used to think it was the depression that made me feel out of control, but its actually opposite.

I work in the helping profession and lived most of my life putting others first. I listened to their problems, gave them comfort and support and when the day was done there was nothing left for me. So I found food as "someone" that was there for me day or night.

This takes hold in other areas of my life too. The house gets to be a mess and I feel depressed, but just doing one thing to improve the house begins to lift my mood. So for me when I am feeling depression creep in I've finally learned to ask myself where am I really feeling out of control or where have I given my sense of personal control away and that is where I put my focus. That in iitself helps me feel more in control. Hope this helps someone else.