Do you ever have family members or friends tell you that you have lost enough or too much?

I keep getting comments from relatives and coworkers telling me to stop losing weight. My mil thinks that I will become anerxic (sp). My dh has to explain to her that I eat tons of things, just not carby things.
My stepdad says I look haggared.

I am still in the 140s, it isn't like I am wasting away. Is it just that they are so used to seeing me with the extra 60 lbs.

Whatever it is, it is very irritating. I mean I feel pretty good about the way I look until I hear these comments.

I am happy, my husband is happy. Isn't that all that matters? My family told me 20 some pound ago that I looked good and had lost enough. LOL Now I am starting to go to the jym to tighten up all that needs tightening Give them time, and they will get use to seeing you thin.

Hi Jen

That is a tough one. 140 lbs may be considered thin for my height of 5' 11" (and it happens to be my goal weight) but I'm going to gander you are shorter.

I have seen a few Atkins people in the before, during and after photos and thought they looked better in the face in the 'during' photos. I have also seen some people who look INCREDIBLE in their after photos and their during photos really do look like just that.

If you come from a "big" family, you will tend to get those "yer getting too thin remarks." However, not all MIL's are selfless and she could also be jealous (however, she could be a saint as well - it is something you have to weigh out for yourself).

The only person I will get the "yer too thin" remark from is my mother who is over 350 lbs and not a millimeter above 5' 5".

I am not asking or even suggesting that you have to do this but if you want blunt honesty, post a photo of you.

I suspect you look great because that is how you feel when you look in the mirror

I get that I don't need to lose weight comment all the time, it drives me nuts!!!

It really isn't anybody elses business, as long as you are healthy that is all that matters. I wonder sometimes if people just say things like that to make us feel better about ourselves. They think that we need to hear that we look fine the way we are so we won't worry about it so much. Like when an overweight person makes a fat joke about themselves and someone sais, oh your not overweight. Do people think that they really believe them, or that it made them feel better.

I wouldn't worry about it, you know what your doing!

Wee

According to your stats you are 5'4" so 140 isn't too thin. I'm 5'10" and at one time in my life weighed 140 ( a long long time ago) Maybe they are jealous or they think you'll get real thin & sexy & leave your dh!

i know exactly what you mean! I get told that im too skinny all the freakin time. Sometimes my dad even refers to me as "Anna" because he thinks im Anorexic.

I get that SOS from my in-laws, co-workers, and sometimes even from my wife! It's even more irritating when people with serious weight & health issues get judgemental about *your* weight. Blow them off. When that ambulance comes, it won't be for you.

I think that's probably at the heart of it all. At your current height and weight, you are not too thin, but they are "used to" you being 60 pounds heavier and even though they may consciously recognize that weighing less is better for you, it still represents a changed you; one that they are not comfortable with even though the only thing that has likely changed about you is your weight and perhaps having a more positive attitude about yourself.
Many people find change threatening and are not aware of it; they are only aware that they feel vaguely uncomfortable and think that if you "stop losing weight" that the uncomfortable feeling will go away.
It could also be that your success with losing weight is a reminder every time that they see you that while you have been successful at losing weight, they are still the way they were; it's a blatant reminder to them that they aren't doing anything about their weight issues and if you go back to being the way you were, they won't have to face that anymore.
Relax and enjoy your success; the comments are more about them then they are about you and they'll get used to the thinner you eventually.

Right on!~~~~~~

OMG I get this all the time too....I can't stand it. Drives me NUTS! I think each individual knows their body best and knows what weight they feel comfortable at.



That is exactly how I feel too.

I get it from my mother. It is usually after I say something like I intend to lose another 20 lbs. Sher replies with something like this:

"You know, you look fine. You don't want to be TOO skinny or unhealthy."

This is also the woman that is a WW/low fat guru who actually likes low fat/no fat products. Blech! She is convinced that Atkins is going to kill me, even if she hasn't read the book (and I've even bought her a copy!). She was on the phone first thing Monday morning to tell me about the article in the New York newspaper.

Now, I am in the 150s currently, and I'm 5'6". I want to be in the 130s, which is in the middle of the recommended weight limits for my age and height. This is not "too skinny" or unhealthy at all. Plus, and most importantly - I eat! I eat healthy stuff, meats, lots of veggies, cheese and I snack on almonds. I sure as heck eat better stuff than her "frankenfoods".

I just wish she'd READ THE BOOK!

Whew! Rant over!

I have a few comments that I save uo for times like this.
Like when someone tells me I should stop doing Atkins, I've already lost enough, blah blah blah, I tell them that it is not a diet, it's not just for weight loss,I'm in it for life, etc.

My favorite is when people hear "no-carb" when you say "low-carb." There's a HUGE difference people!

Those people who mention anorexia should be handed a dictionary, and a sample daily menu of the average LC'er.

Call me a cynic, but a fundamental aspect of SOME people's personalities is that they do not like seeing other people happy, or they are jealous of someone else's success. Some people may not want you to lose any more weight because they feel threatened by your improved appearance. Given your height and weight (similar to mine), you are at a healthy weight, and losing a few more if that is what you want to do would not make you too thin. I want to be 125 myself, but even losing another 15 lb. at my height would not, in my opinion, make me look too thin. You just have to smile at those people, say "Thank you, I take that as a compliment" and walk away.

I don't mean this to belittle what your feeling at all. I know it must be bothersome and annoying.....
but I can't wait until someone says that to me! I'll feel like I accomplished everything I intended. Someone would FINALLY be jealous of MY body! AH I cant wait!

I get it from my MIL all the time... she practically screams it through a mega phone every time we go to a family event. It embarasses me to no end, and I have to constantly defend my WOE to her... she btw is 5'2 and WELL over 300 pounds, on every medication known to man, including Zenical and should be taking notes from me! Whew, rant over