I'm glad you got something out of it. He's not everyone's cup of tea, but I like the way he lays it all out. Today, for example, a wife who had "tried really hard" to follow the plan, but her husband "got in her way" <whiney tone> She was blaming her husband since he drove to the store for her to get Little Debbies and he also brought her ice cream when she told him to.
He acknowledged that the husband should be supportive of her, and be firm in helping her make better choices, but made her realize that it wasn't HIM "Making" her eat badly, but that she was an adult, accountable for her own actions. She couldn't backpedal and try to blame the husband when it was on national tv showing him doing as he was TOLD.
He challenged her to take responsibility for her own behavior, and she HATED it, but Dr Phil offered her the same "accountability" he gave his weight loss challengers...weigh-ins, following her progress ... She couldn't say NO to him, and the husband looked 10 lbs lighter from relief! Here he was dragged to the show for it being "all his fault" as she made clear...
You could tell it pained her to give up her crutch, but he cut right through her denial and blame and made her face up to her own manipulation in the situation.
I guess the book does that for me..all the little rationalizations I make and all the crutches I use to support my bad habits were pretty well ingrained, and I didn't WANT to dig down and figure it out...and I'm right in the middle of catching a major backslide and working through the 7 keys again, a little more honestly this time. I'm finding a few weak spots I had kind of let slide the last time through...<sigh>
Okay, I didn't keep my Phil Sermon short THIS time...