Hey WhoFan thanks so much for the encouragement
It is quite difficult in our relationship with this. Has been a struggle for years setting boundaries. I hope he really joins me one day once I am established blissful health. Because in general he is not to healthy; always lacking energy, not getting enough sleep, aching all the time.
I have gotten past the boundary work but I do worry about my marriage. Once I have all my energy back and am able to be on the go more than him what will happen.
For a long time I didn't see it as derailing but slowly realized that he was being selfish. Even this current attempt he was pissed and thought I was being stupid for doing a low carb diet.
He didn't want to participate in figuring out the common veggies we like. Every time I ask him if he like something he get pissed.
I still cook him stuff he likes. I made popovers for him and his friends this weekend. I made him Rice last night. pasta tonight. So I am still trying to please him with extra cooking work.
One of the reasons why I hung my weight loss chart in the bathroom above the scale this time was so he knows my progress.
So when he goes in there he can see and know that I am dead serious. And this silly LC plan is actually working.
He refuses to get what it means to be Diabetic.
I do have trouble understanding this attitude. I would think he try to do everything to help me be happy and healthy. Cause if I don't get a hold of it. He will be wifeless early in life. My biological family life spans are not past 72 years old. Where as his go up to 98.
I am droning on. But thanks for the encouragement. I hope you speak from experience and that translates into my marriage. Because I do love him very much!