Hi 1979. I am the parent of an almost (Jan. 3) fourteen year old son who is bipolar. Unfortunately, I cannot control what he chooses to eat outside of the home, but I do the best I can to keep only whole foods in the house. I do not buy processed food at all - no doritos, ice cream... nothing with preservatives, artificial color, sweeteners, or flavor. I have battled many professionals who do not believe that diet has anything to do with mental/emotional disorders. In fact, one of his old psychiatrist's had huge plastic bins in his office FULL of junk food for kids to pick out after their session! He goes to a private school (an excellent program for kids like him) that pays absolutely no attention to the food it serves these kids all of whom have one psychiatric condition or another. I can tell instantly if my son ate something with red food color (seems to affect him the worst) by his behavior. When he has been over at someone's house it can take a couple of days to clean out his system from eating junk. I believe that eating a diet based on whole foods can greatly help him control himself with the addition of medication. As you probably know, with a child like this, you really have to pick your battles, so I don't get on him for what he eats outside the home, just explain to him that it's not good for his body, however, he is a teenager on top of everything else, and just loves making me wrong
Staples I keep in the house for him (Trader Joe's is great!): celery, carrots, bell peppers, broccoli, peanut butter, sprouted whole grain bread, tuna, chicken, turkey, peas, salad, eggs, brown rice, pizza on whole wheat crust. I try to not give him a lot of fruit and I never buy fruit juice because in addition to the calories, it is so full of sugar. I buy soy milk, which he has developed a taste for, but that took a while. He mostly drinks water, which I feel is important with the meds. If it isn't in the house, he is forced to pick from what is there, and he might whine about it, but will eventually make a choice and eat it.
Also, I don't know if you have read any of the research about fish oil and bipolar children. It's hard for me to convince my son to take any more 'pills' but the oil is super good for the brain, esp these kids'.
I was a single parent dealing with this for 7 of his almost 14 years and I know how tough and heartbreaking it is - if I can help you in any way, I will be happy to - unfortunately there isn't a whole lot of support out there and a lot of differing opinions on what's best.