Hi Momma. I wish I had something particularly profound to say... I'll just offer this: I've been eating this way for a good 9 months now (plus or minus a few weeks of slips here and there), and I'm of the opinion that <b>everyone</b> should enjoy the food they eat, even if there are things that they can't have. And I say 'can't' very loosely. It should be a matter of choice, not "hafta."
There's something I read on some other forum a long time ago, and I wish I knew the source because I'd buy the book. Anyway, it helped me turn around my 'it's no fair' mentality. To paraphrase: get rid of the idea of unfair "deprivation." You are not deprived. A child being neglected by its parents is deprived. People in desperate poverty are deprived. People living under a dictator who's starving his people is deprived. People living in relative wealth and health in suburbia, with sufficient finances to choose good food are NOT deprived. It is a choice. You can choose stuff that makes you feel temporarily good but takes a toll on your health, or you can choose that which would heal you. No one is stopping you from either choice. It's entirely up to you.
Those who choose the unhealthy stuff NEVER get away with it. Just because they're not wearing it on their butt yet doesn't mean they won't in a few years, or that they won't get diabetes. Or that it isn't exacerbating PCOS, infertility, mood disorders, hypoglycemia, IBS, auto-immune diseases or a myriad of other health problems that are the result of poor diet. DON'T think FOR A MINUTE that there's this thin majority out there, scarfing back Cheetos and Pepsi and getting away with it.
Please don't give up on trying to get to that place where you can take care of yourself, and enjoy your day, and your body, and your meals, no matter what your current weight is. Lisa is right: it's perfectly normal to not like being overweight, but it is NOT normal to have so much hatred toward your body and to be so unhappy...
Hang in there and keep on posting...