Yes, yes, yes, I have been there, done that and have been as frustrated as you are.
The only thing that has worked and broken that cycle was putting myself on a strict plan.
I only eat three meals a day, I control those portions and most important, do not eat after dinner, and try to finish it before seven pm. I was a terrible evening snacker, yes it was all low carb but I would snack on and off all night. It was hard the first few days and it has been easy since. I have been doing this for seven days and lost 7 pounds the first six days , and most importantly to me, right before and during my tom. That shocked me.
I make sure to drink as close to a gallon a day of weak diet ice tea, and I also allow myself a bit of diet rite soda as a treat. The tangerine in the evening makes up for not eating after dinner, it is so sweet.
I took away most dairy except for a bit of American occasionally and some cheddar on omelets and occasionally in salads as well. I put butter on my veggies at night. My favorate desserts were all dairy based, low carb ice cream and low carb cheese cake and diet pudding, if I eat any of these I just do not lose and the cravings do not go away.
I also notice I am sensitive to too much sodium and watch the processed meats, I tend to eat very little and try to stick to pure meats, steak , chicken , pork, I do eat a lot of hamburger patties, but make sure I buy ones that are 100 percent beef or turkey.
The key is finding what works for you, I have finally found what works for me and it feels great, I would just say to experiment, only you know what you can be comfortable with. For me, it was getting tough with myself and being very strict. Stephie