Maintenance is hard for me - I have no goal to work toward. Beside, I am constitutionally inconsistent - about everything.
People say to me things like, "you look like you've lost weight" than bring me peanut butter cookies.
If I say I am allergic to grains, they bring me oatmeal cookies.

Having weight issues is like being handicapped or left handed - people who do not have these issues are oblivious.

So we have to protect ourselves from the well meaning who have no idea they are sabotaging us.

We just have to be polite about it and not share our frustrations with them