hey i am from wichita too!!
step one--CHANGE THAT AWFUL SCREEN NAME!!!!!!!!!!
the first step is a positive image at least.
step two--- look at the person looking back at you in the mirror. ask him if he really wants to do this. ask him what he is willing to do to reach his goals .
this game is 98 percent mental, think positive, tell yourself you are going to do this and your not going to cheat. you are better than that arent you?
don't think about the things you cant have, forget about that crap. that was the stuff that is going to kill us!!
now go talk to the person in the mirror and find out if they are really ready to commit and then get with the program, you can do it!!