"You can have anything you want, but you can't have *everything* you want."

It sounds like you need to pick a method that works for you, and stick to it no matter what works for the people in magazines. Ignore them! They aren't you. Once you *do* pick a plan, stick to it, and get to your goal weight, your maintenance program can be very flexible. You'll be able to eat some whole grains and yogurt in moderation without gaining.

Best of luck!