Last year my husband was working full time and going to school for his MBA. When he would try to study at home while the kids were awake it always ended up in an argument or someone crying, because the kids can not be quiet for long and he cannot study while they are being "kids". So, I would be the one to feel giulty about it, and then everytime he told me he was going to have to study at home I would have a panic attack, it was so stressful. Finally, my therapist told me it's not my problem it's HIS. I should not be the one stressing and having panic attacks over HIS problems. Only he can control where and when he studies, and to expect the kids to be quiet was ridiculous. Well, he decided to go to the library and I gave up control/guilt and the panic attacks stopped.

It seems so stupid looking back now, but what an eye opener as well. Now I am very careful to consider just how much control I may have in any given situation and what I just need to let go.