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Originally Posted by bloodroses
as you all know im down 182 pounds as of today my i pass my goal of 150. it getting a bit annoying and fustarating when everytime i see someone they put me on display and they say oh my goodness she was so big! and it like gee thanks! it nice to know what you thought of me. Oh and a new thing for some reason or another my overweight friends treat me differnt too and in my mind i think im still the same but they treat me as if i don't know what it like and i do!!!!!!!!! i haven't forgotten and i never will. so many mix vibes from everyone even in my family. one min they are happy for me and the next it "oh you look sick" your too thin and the list go on. but boy did they love tellin me how i need to do something about my weight. you can not make anyone happy that for sure. even at 143 and i'm 5'8 im still dealing with the fact that it very hard for me to wrap my brain around this new girl clothing and all shopping i get paroind thinking someone thinking what the hell is she doing in the smalls or something when i know knowone probably paying any attention but still in my mind. lots of rewiring im have to do i guess to my mind. point you can fix the outside all day long but the mind is another thing all on it own. i still have a lot of 'fat' days and know one has any empathy for you cause they look at you and be like "oh please shut up your a size what two" so let see when you trade in your fat card you get a new card w/ new feelings are takes away rights to feel certain ways vs with my fat card i have other rights? yea it made not make sense to alot of people but it just how i feel when i view it. so now because i im not fat anymore i can't have bad days either i should be happy all the time well i must be a strange skinny person but i still have a lot of the same problems. i had at 323 pounds and it like noone in the world understands this. again it must be me.
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I would like to second what sk8termom posted in her reply to your thread.................
"First of all - huge congrats for your success." Your weight loss journey is just remarkable!
As to your perceived "problems,"................have you ever given any thought about being grateful that you now have such issues with which to deal?
I read posts all the time about people worrying about losing weight and having to cope with "hanging skin." I now have that "situation" to live with and I Thank God each and every day because I now have skin that hangs.
People can, and always will say things to us. Sometimes what they mean to say comes out just the way they intend. Oftentimes we hear someone say something and it hits us in an entirely different way than what the speaker meant. I know this happens because I once said something to a customer which I meant as a compliment and he became upset because he saw it as an insult.
This type of thing is going to happen to us all the time..............no matter how big or how small we might be. And, as sure as the sun comes up in the morning, there are going to be times when friends and relatives say something to us that is truly, truly hateful, hurtful, and insulting.
But, I don't care what anyone says............I know for a fact that I'd rather be insulted at the weight I am now than be insulted when I was over 400 lbs!