Welcome to the world of reverse discrimination.

Beauty and success provoke as much negativity as ugliness and failure. The only way to avoid overly positive or negative reactions is to be average, plain, and non-threatening. Un-noticed.

Men: visual beauty is a powerful sexual stimulant. Heterosexual men are NATURALLY attracted to a physically attractive woman. But few are able to handle the over-stimulation in ordinary interactions. So, unless they know there is some possibility for "action" they tend to avoid this source of distracting or uncomfortable stimulus.

Have you never experienced meeting someone you find extremely attractive (breath-taking) and your reaction is to avoid them? Many models and actors report they others rarely approach them for a date.

Women: your positive self-image is either a threat (jealousy/competition), a rebuke (poor self-esteem) or an emotional trigger (unresolved past traumas).

In all cases, the responses will be a refection of the other person's maturity and stability (or lack thereof).

Solution: develop a strong sense of self that does not rely upon anyone's approval or disapproval.

The zen of low-carb.