I think it is important to focus more on the positive in us, than the negative. I have been doing visualisation the last couple of days, and it has helped. Even with my grueling exercise ( which may not be grueling to some). I am attempting to hike up hill. One day I will be fit enough to get to the top of that mountain. Today while I was waiting for my d/h and dog ( they go much further up than I) I sat on a rock and pictured myself, how I want to look, climbing to the top with a picinic basket, and a wine to toast that I had finally made it.

When I dwell on what is in front of me in the mirror, it is harmful to my ego. And that, I believe is self-defeating. We must think about how we will look in order to succeed

just my 2 cents.