I used to do that comparison thing compulsively--especially when I was married, first anorectic, then regaining after the starvation years. I drove my ex CRAZY with saying, "am I as fat as her?" "Do I look that THAT from behind?" I had NO idea! And I was panicked.

I'm not sure my idea is 100% accurate today, but I feel no panic and ask no one and don't compare because I think almost everyone is beautiful. (okay, I confess, a number of models and actresses look gawdawful thin to me).

But this weekend when I was garage sale hopping, I pulled out a pair of jeans, held them up, thought, "nah, way too small for me"--then found the size (12), held them up to ME, and they'd have fit perfectly. lol--so I clearly am not 100% in agreement with reality yet! I've been wearing shorts lately and if I catch a surprise reflection of myself, I think my thighs look thin. If I purposefully look at them, they still seem large. Nice, but large.