I am sorry also to hear about your mom Trish. U and I seem to have a lot in common. It is because my dad has adult diabetes and the fact that 1 1/2 yrs ago in a 2 week period my mom had 2 heart attacks and a stroke, that I knew I needed to make major lifestyle changes. [BTW both my parents are still alive and doing ok] Also I have that spare tire around my middle. Oh I can dress up and look great but I dearly wish my waist was about 2 inches smaller. Lisa is right tho. Just because U and I have a thicker waist doesnt mean we have a much higher over all BF. I dont see that we have a much great risk for health concerns either. We are all built different and I think if we eat well, exercise not smoke [ LOL I can say that now since I quit] then thats all we can do to stay in good health.