But I do have to other thoughts about this...

The person involved may not be a 19 year old college student. People online tell lies all the time. Could be a woman (or a man) of any age just playing games. But I guess that's not so important here...

And here's the idea that will get me in more hot water, but as a man (regardless of preferences, men share some behaviors)...for many men, online games mean absolutely nothing more than picking up a copy of Playboy (choose the publication that fits). It really doesn't mean anything more than that.

On the other hand, he may have an addiction...and he may need your help.

I see from the responses that many women have faced this issue and had bad experiences with it. But not ALL situations are the same.

Communicate. Be true to yourself. Begin rebuilding the trust.

Donald