Wow, everything yo wrote makes SO much sense. I read it three times.

A good friend of mine said that he is just hurting me at this point, period! She usually can see this clearly from her view, but I just don't understand that type of behavior. I'm simply not that way with him or anyone.

I guess I don't really want revenge ... I just want to be happy with myself, gain control, and move on if that's what needs to be done. I don't want to share the bedroom with someone who has standards for being in it.

Thank you for your post. It was terrific!