Silly me figured that I would be the one who would be everyone's rock since this diet is so hard. Usually the woman's job anyway. We have to be everything...or so we think...usually to our own detriment. The idea of Superwoman is probably what put me in this predicament in the first place. LOL.
As far as the standard charts go; that's the problem; they're standard. When I say my frame is small; I mean really small! My wrist right now is about 4.5 inches and my wedding ring is a size 4 1/4. The weight I've gained does not look right on me. Like I said, I've always been under 100 lbs. Around 87 lbs pre and post pregnancy. Then 35 hit. YUCK! Maybe I don't need a diet, I need a time reversal machine. LOL. Anyway thanks for the support, but I have set a realistic goal, I feel, for myself. Good luck in your quest.