wflow, welcome to the boards. This one is my fave. I read it everyday, although I don't post too much. I'm sorry about your husband's mistake to leave you.
YES we are here to support you. I went through pretty much the same situation.
I was 191 when my jerk left, and it was such a treat to meet him for lunch one day weighing in at 120! You shoulda seen his eyes. HIS LOSS! You can do it.
There are some great self help books out there, if interested email me. Hugs, Kelly