this is a tough one to respond to, and to make sure i get the words out right! i think to boost your self esteem, it will take a series of small successes. i say start with one area that you want to improve upon (diet or non-diet related) and take a "baby-step" approach to improving that area. if it is diet, start with one meal or one snack and then tackle the next and then the next. but only tackle them one meal or one snack at a time! if it is to be more outgoing, start by saying hi to someone new each day....one small step at a time, move yourself into the direction you wish to proceed. and realize that there will be setbacks and adjustments to be made. those setbacks and adjustments are not defeats, they are just something to learn from, so just keep working through them! and realize the whole time that you are worthy of these goals and accomplishments--good things will happen to you--just keep taking things one small step at a time!