Well, perhaps this is just as hard on her! Maybe she is not so sure of YOU, and is feeling out the waters to see if you will get along. Before completing labelling her as something she may not be, maybe try to think of her perspective as well, and consider the fact that perhaps she is feeling out of sorts adn is trying to just simply figure out the "fit" for everyone, asyou are doing. Iw ish you luck, it is hard when there are a lot of changes,.