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Old Tue, May-18-04, 10:13
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Question The Fear/Dealing with Compliments

Hi all,

This will be the dumbest thing you'll read today, guarenteed

It's vyyz looking for your personal, experiences, opinions, and stratagies
how to overcome the overwhelming feeling when people start to compliment you.
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I've had a good but shortlived success on LCing before

The trigger? (I probably wrote it in my journal)
Dealing with compliments from other friends and co-workers who are constantly dieting.

I felt 'ashamed' of my progress when the compliments started.
I would say 'Thank you', then stress over it. I felt weird. Like there was
now this expectation for me to win or fail.

When I was at my best at LCing, I concentrated more on counting carbs, drinking water, and excersie. It didn't cross my mind how I would look after two weeks of induction.

It was my co-worker paid me a compliment about my weightloss and then started to go on about her dieting failures and that she can't do it, but good for me.

Same with my roomates girlfriend. She commented how I was looking good but then dive into her own problems with eating, THEN tell me how dangerous and non-permanent it is to do it the Atkins way. I could feel her resentment when she FORCED me to try on a dress she couldn't fit into.
What a mistake.

I felt like I was personally responsible for both their failures.

I felt like I was being purposely flaunting my weightloss

Trying every day to boost both spirits and get them on my wagon, saying

'You have to make that personal choice for yourself and stick with it'

I felt so bad. I started to wear big sweaters, scared that someone would notice me.

I got sad & carbed out so bad, I put on weight again and more.
The compliments stopped, and I felt relieved

BUT I felt terrible that I let myself down.
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2nd time around, I am so thankful for these LC forums!

I have more confidence this time and have true support with real survivors

but I know that's not enough when I walk away from my computer

Can you give advice anyone? Please?
My pants are getting a bit loose again.
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