I've found that as a heavy person, no one wants to sit near you wherever you're at. I'm a regular at Starbucks first thing in the morning, and I've noticed that, perhaps people are afraid of 'catching' your obesity. I put up with a LOT of harassment from men from the time I was 12, and it lessened greatly after I gained all the weight. Now that I'm losing, my own attitude has changed, and I'm more apt to look at men, whereas before I'd just look down if they looked at me, figuring "what the H*** are they staring at?" Now I'm not so negative about it, and I know as I lose weight I will have to deal with attention from men, but I'm ready. I'm not at that point yet, but since my own attitude has changed and I'm more self-confident, I'm also noticing that men's attitudes towards me isn't as negative (or as I perceived) it to be.

LL