Hmmmm..... sounds like your friend shouldn't have linked the weight loss and dating thing together. She has a lot of other things that make her unhappy and cause the weight gain. I think that maybe she should have worked on some of the other things going on in her life too, she just wasn't ready to date yet. But you have to remember, everyone is different, while your friend had a lot of other things influencing her weight gain others don't. Some people would be perfectly fine with losing weight, working on your self esteem and body image and dating again. People just need to make sure that they are ready for change and are mentally prepared to handle things if they don't go as expected ya know? But I do see your point... lose the weight for yourself to make sure you are making youself happy... I believe that is very important. I wish you and your friend the best and I hope that she gets back on track and finds tons of happiness.