Josie-- it is hard. I still struggle with it. I HATE the feeling that I've let someone down, or they may not like me... but you know what? I'm beginning to like the feeling of not letting MYSELF down!

I still like to help people, and I always will. I'm just learning to examine my motives for helping, and not try to "buy friends" by doing things for them they would NEVER do for me?

It became clear to me when my son was sick just how few of the people I've done things for are real friends that I can call on when *I* need help.