Breecita, Thanks for the book suggestion!

To your question: yes, I am a people pleaser. One of the reasons I'm department head, in fact. Remember the song from Oklahoma: "I'm Just a Girl Who Can't Say 'No'"? I'm also an "Auntie Judi"--the person people talk to when they need to whine, vent, boast, or blow. That works out to finding it hard to find time for myself 'way too often. So I'm learning to say no sometimes.

Does it tie in with my food fights? Not that I know of; even before I was obese, or even fat, I was a people pleaser and an "Auntie Judi". It ties more in with being an ACA,

Jude