I really like the suggestion to have my own treats available. I think I am going to go to the store tonight and try to find something....maybe some whipped cream to put on the jello so it is more like desert. Additionally, I never really considered the fact that he is just self absorbed. I guess it works better for me to think that than to always think he is "out to get me". I have decided that when he does these things I am going to channel all of that "temptation" energy into determination by using self talk. Hopefully that mixed with the "deserts" will get me over the hump. Thanks
P.S. on the main support board they have a thread like this running right now...for anyone who is activly going through this, that thread is also a good one!