It is the highly intellectual concept (if I must say so myself) of disassociation. To observe things, objects, events without the
need to experience them.

I see the cookie. It is a cookie, an object, there and it has certain characteristics that are specific to it and that I can observe and discuss.

Not - I see the cookie and feel this or that about it and then struggle with my need/not need for it.


I like to think of it as a skill. It is a very difficult thing to do, but it can be done. In Buddism it is described as "sensing the essence of a thing". To appreciate things/objects/interactions/events as they are, without analyzing or deciding what our own existance has in relation to it.

Glad someone understands, even if just a bit.