I'd call it probation. I think that stepped beyond insensitive and wasn't respectful for you. Confront him by saying "When you say X I feel Y". I think the arrogance you talk about is telling. Somone has a quote in their sig that I really like "Someone who is nice to you and not nice to the waiter is not nice."
You don't want to subject yourself to someone who can't respect you and be kind to you. Kindness is way underrated...

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