Jude,
I came from the same type household as you...I was seen as weak and I guess a bit of a traitor(?) if I felt like talking about my issues...especially in reguards to counseling. I had anorexia quite badly in high school and I purposefully had a huge breakdown in front of my parents to try to show them how much I needed help...they still wouldn't let me go....sigh. But anyway, I got help in college....so I know where you're coming from. It only makes things worse if issues aren't talked about and dealt with.
(To my parents credit, they have gotten much better ...they're mellowing a little now...hehe)
I never really fit into my family in that way...i need to talk about stuff. Psychology is very interesting to me. I'm often the one people talk to when they need help....I'm a psychology grad now..so go figure! haha