I have to agree with everyone. You have to do what is right for you. My DH and I are both LCing but I have lost 60 lbs. to his 30. He is very happy for me but I know deep down he is a little bit jealous that he has not done so well. Keeping that in mind, he has been stricter with his diet in the past few weeks. I really think I am inspiring him!! And I never (well only once in awhle) tell him he shouldnt eat something or preach to him. I think I am just setting an example for him and you can do that for her too. It is her decision only and you can only be an example to her. Good luck!!