Wed, Jan-21-04, 08:23
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Contributing Member
Posts: 630
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Plan: Atkins
Stats: 345/304/240
BF:20.72 %
Progress: 39%
Location: Mt. Clemens, Michigan
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Originally Posted by ItaliaGirl:
I agree.
And i shall say why.
I met my dear boyfriend and he is truly an angel - when i was very very very slim.
I gained alot weight over about 3 years.
Now he would never mention this to me - but when I asked him what he thought deep down - he said he preferred me slim - because i was happier slim.
and he also said he would never say it because - how could he help someone when - the help had to come within me - that he didnt want me slimming for him - it had to be for myself?
And he was right - he cant lose weight for me.
I think its important to be attractive to a partner. Attractive being subjective of course - a slim body may not be the main attraction - but prehaps confidence is.
I would sincerely ask him - and ask him to be 110% honest about it - what he feels.
Then remember - you can only lose weight for yourself not him.
Use him & his love as inspiration.
xxx
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I agree with what you say, but in the context of Ellen-Mom's post, I was just pointing out the fact that she seems to be making a conscious decision to stop this wol. I think that is different than having health problems, gaining because of medication, or even unknowingly having an addiction problem to sugar.
I think it changes once we are educated to the benefits of this woe and then knowingly give it up.
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