Supermommy, I really feel for you. I think everyone who's written has given you great advice. I'm in your shoes, too, although in a lesser way (a so-called friend, not a romance). Anyway, I came across a very helpful bit of counsel in a book. It suggests you say to yourself, "Just exactly how long am I going to let this past event ruin my present life?????" Of course that won't make the healing happen instantaneously, but it can help you think positively. At least I hope so.